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Marriage. I'm having trouble even typing it. The dumbest thing anyone could ever get into. The vows mean nothing, chances are, you end up with a stupid name and when the merciful end is finally there, you discover that you are responsible for all the idiotic things your so-called better half did. And to rectify the mistake, you get to pay money to courts and lawyers. *wtf*?! Initially I thought, marriage was something sacred. To be with someone, to stay with someone, to build a future based on two, not one. To overcome obstacles and arguments, to hang in there and come out stronger. To throw all your worries and all your delights in one pot, minimize the worries and double the delights. Ha! Fat chance. I'm not saying that there aren't marriages that work, inspite of themselves. What I am saying is, that if, without fear of the legal mumbo-jumbo, you work through the ups and downs of a relationship and don't walk away, you know, that you actually have something there. It is my belief, that a good portion of marriages are not dissolved, simply because of financial reasons. Well, maybe that's simplifying it just a bit too much. Let's not forget, the self-doubts, the fear of being alone, the not wanting to admit failure, the kids, the family, the neighbours and all that. That's pretty potent stuff.Notice, how I haven't mentioned 'Love' ? I think love has nothing to do with marriage. You either love or you don't. Or you do until you don't. Just like anything else. In conclusion, I have determined, that marriage is a completely unneccessary misery. We all should concentrate on learning to love and learning to understand. Understand ourselves first. Then understand our partners. Someone ought to teach a course on that:)
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